Break Up, To Make Up

A little while back, one of my readers [Who wishes to be anonymous] had a Love/Relationship topic request for me and I thought now would be a great time to use it - being as this is one of those seasons when people do tend to reflect on their love life, or lack there of. Not sure about y'all, but I am not a fan of dating these days. It is tough and it just gets tougher as you get older and your standards rise and whatnot. Even when you feel you know exactly what you desire, you tend to still have to meet and/or date several people before finding someone who makes you feel like you have to know more about them and are willing to put in that effort with. So any-who, this is what my reader asked:

["I wanna hear your thoughts on breakups that involve both parties that still deeply love each other....even after if one of the parties admits to messing up the relationship, breaks it off to better themselves as an individual. Give your opinion if they should work it out or just let it go"]

>>> I would LOOOOVE it if you all could leave some feedback in my COMMENTS section on this topic! I have only been truly in love one time and these were not the terms we split on so I can only speak but so much on this topic. For me, I'm not a "break up to make up" type, so when a relationship is ended, whether by me or by him, I reflect, chalk it up, and move on. If I feel it is worth fighting for, I will. However, I feel as though if you are just going though something with your partner why break up rather then work through it? Why not try to resolve the issue first, then if you two cannot agree to disagree or find middle-ground and move forward together without holding that issue over one each other's head in the future, then why continue? Especially if you feel this is someone you wanted to marry or become life partners with, then you have to learn to work thru even the toughest of things. Those hurdles will either make or break a relationship. It really depends upon the worth of the relationship to the partners(in my opinion). The saying "it takes two to tango" though it is so cliche, it is a great one! Even if one person is wrong, you cannot spend this undisclosed amount of time expecting them to be making it up to you while you do nothing! You should still be putting in effort, being (at least) some what understanding, and letting them know that you see they are or are not trying! Relationships are ALWAYS a two-way street! It is not just about you, it is about you BOTH! An age old piece of advice i was given was to do a "pros and cons" list. If the Pros outweigh then you stay. By weigh we mean quality, not necessarily the amount of pros outweigh the cons. A guy can be everything to his woman but also be a "woman beater" or a woman could be everything to her man, but also be a chronic cheater. So, don't just think of "how many" think of how important certain traits are to you in a relationship but also reflect on what your partner desires and ask yourself "Am I doing my part?".

---- So again, I ask of you all, please give your thoughts on this topic below!!

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