Can You Take a Hint?

Ever been blinded by the fact that you like someone so much you are not even watching the signs that they are not into you? Or do you genuinely not even know if they are? Some people try to rely on giving subtle hints that they don't share any romantic interest in you to spare your feelings. We've all done it and probably still do it sometimes.

Though I feel just coming out and telling you they are not really into you is the best policy, I want to point out a few obvious and some not-so-obvious signs that a person you are into is just NOT feeling the same way...


1. Dry conversation/they don’t try to get to know you
– Those people who give really short answers on the regular and don't ask you anything in return probably don't feel much like engaging in the conversation. Someone who’s into you is going to try to learn everything there is to know, right? I'd think so.

2. You are ALWAYS initiating conversation first.
– I don't know about y'all, but when I'm really liking someone all I think about is him and how I can't wait to see him again. If it seems you two only talk when you hit them first, chances are you are not on their mind and that’s probably because they are not feeling you like that or they like someone more than they like you. Sometimes a person is "busy" but honestly, if they like you enough, they will make time whether it's a small 30 minute window or a couple hours from a day.

3. Minimal physical contact
– Even virgins will still show you they are interested with a hug, kiss, cuddle, hand-holding, etc… if the person does not even want to give you a nice lil' hug, then they are probably not attracted to you.

– This goes for dates too. Just because they agree to a date doesn't mean you have their complete interest so if at they are fidgety like they are rushing the date and don't want to sit and perhaps chat some more or anything, take that as a sign there may not be a love connection.

4. No Eye Contact
– I know sometimes people are shy but if they are, say, steady looking at their phone, looking around the room, steady watching the clock or anything else that distracts them from looking at you then they are probably uninterested.

5. They never express interest in you
– If you are constantly saying things like "we should go on a date" or "I really want to know you more on a personal level" and they are saying NO or skating around answering you, Please, TAKE THE HINT and keep it moving. Sometimes a person has to warm up to you for a while before they start to like you but in most cases a person knows at first sight and definitely after a conversation or two that they are interested in further getting to know you. Look at it as THEIR loss *shrugs*.

6. The person uses closed up body language/sits far away/facing away from you on a date or in the same room
– Either this person does not like you, or they have another romantic interest in the room and don't want to get caught up! (lol).


**Sometimes you have those tricky ones who say they're interested but are not really showing it or they are very half-assed and minimal about what they say or do. Well there could be a variety of reasons they may be doing such a thing:

a. They just like the attention...
b. They just like the attention...
c. THEY JUST LIKE THE ATTENTION!!


(lol)...Why else lead someone on? Especially when you're not even being physical with each other. They just like getting attention and being showered with whatever nice things you are saying to them and they like being chased.


Some of what I mentioned (and more) are on these two sites. Check em out!

"Signs He's Not Into You" "Subtle Signs She's Not Into You"


* I hope this has been informative and helpful. Keep your eyes open the next time you express interest in someone. If something feels shady, it probably is so TAKE THE HINT! You may know the answers without even needing to ask the question! Feel free to add more pointers, links, etc.*