Most women say "I love a man who remembers the little things" but the moment our anniversary gift is not that "special" some of us throw a fit. So is there an unspoken balance that should exist between the "little things" and the "Hallmark" moments?
Let's take Valentine's Day for example. I have a friend who says he's done celebrating Valentine's Day because women expect too much on that day. He has a point. Some women expect for their man to go all out on V-Day, Birthdays, and X-Mas, but what about the other 362/363 days of the year?
I'm not saying a guy should buy his lady gifts daily or weekly or that it even has to be something tangible. However, in my opinion, those little moments where you pointed out a perfume you liked when you two were window shopping then a week later he surprises you with it just to see you smile is just one of those moments that add up and remind you why you care about that person so much. Or how about when you come home after a long day and HE actually cooked YOU dinner, has your favorite shows recorded and is going to give YOU a massage? The little things usually seem more genuine and thoughtful rather than going to the store and buying cliche things or trying to outspend yourself from last year's gift. I must also add though that people do too much demanding when it comes to material things in relationships rather than giving someone the chance to WANT to do things for them. Our expectations are through the roof on the wrong things!! A person who cares will go over the moon for you but if you pressure them it starts to seem generic. But eh I mean who am I to say?...
Just a thought.
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