Trust Issues...

Trust, No one

I don't know about y'all, but frankly I get annoyed when I hear people say they don't trust anyone and blame it on someone that betrayed their trust at some point. I feel like people who don't trust anyone can't be too trustworthy themselves because they'll probably lie just to protect themselves from being LIED TO. You can't trust EVERYBODY but you can trust SOMEBODY, you just have to understand that no one is 100% trustworthy. Sorry to tell you! If you think that you done told someone some secrets and they didn't at least tell one person one of those secrets, you're very naive. And I wish a *You-know-who* would say they "keep it a hunnet" 100% of the time. They've just probably told someone who doesn't know anyone who knows you so it never got back to you or someone who has to reason to even utter that situation to anyone else, lol (Be Real we've all done it). I'm just saying be real with yourself and stop using your past as an excuse for not trusting others who have given you no reason to not trust em yet. Quite frankly, you shouldn't tell anyone something you don't mind "the world" knowing. If you need to vent, vent to someone who forgets quickly or doesn't know who you're talking about. They'll be around for the convo but by the time they leave out the door they remember nothing and you feel a weight lifted off your shoulders (win-win) lol....That's just a suggestion though.

Now in terms of relationships and what not, seems like people are so afraid to open up to someone because of something that's been done to them. Well you're living life in fear! Sometimes you just have to take the chance and the risk if you plan to LIVE life. Walking around afraid to open up to someone that you genuinely care about only sets you back. How else do you learn to trust someone? You both have to put yourselves out there with each other and be there for each other to build that trust. Don't make promises you can't keep and don't sell someone dreams or say you will do something when you have no intentions of doing it.

You have to learn to move on from the past and stop letting it affect your future to the point where you are just going to always be unhappy and bitter. Stop assuming the worst from the jump with the new person you are dating! Yes there are signs that should be paid attention to, but some of the things that people assume someone is cheating on them are crazy as I don't know what sometimes! How's that person supposed to prove to you they are different when you take that chance away?





--- Just a Thought






** And I thought this was a great article about Trust : Trust Issues ...I'll add more links if I find any**