I don't care what anyone says, perception matters and at some point everyone cares what people think about them. You may not care about what every single person thinks about you but there's certain people that you want to see you in a certain light...So I ask, are you presenting yourself the way you want people to see you?
This is especially seen in dating and sex. Ladies, how many guys tell you they can give you the world, bring you the moon, got a "mandingo", will blow ya back out and all this extra stuff, but their actions show otherwise or they fall "short"(ha)?? Just stop talking about it and be about it!! Now I ain't just jumping on the guys because women do it too! Saying she is this flexible or can do this and that in bed...Either way, you can say what you want, but a person is going to eventually learn the real you and see you from your actions and how you present yourself regardless of all that yikkity yak you kickin'!
Perception has so many dimensions. Think about fashion. I feel your style should be a direct reflection of who you are. Why? Because whether you realize it or not, the first thing a person will see when they see you is what's on the surface. They will see your clothes, your physique, your feature, hair, etc... If you present yourself in a certain light, people will perceive you a certain way. Unfortunately, if you never get a chance to see that person all they have is that first impression of you. So if you want to walk around in booty shorts and see through clothes with no bra on, extra makeup extra weave, etc etc, you can't control the reactions you're going to get and you can only be so mad about it because that's how you present yourself. You don't want to be called a slob, don't walk around always looking sloppy. You don't want to be thought of as a "skank" then think about what you are doing to put off this type of image. You show up at a job interview with ill fitting or unprofessional clothing, those people may assume you are sloppy, don't pay attention to detail and may not even be organized. Many don't realize how much information (positive or negative or misunderstood) that they could be giving off simply by what they wear, how they talk, walk, etc.
Social networks are tricky because many use social networks as a stage to create this person that they really are not! I like to call these people DECEPTICONS. On social networks a person only knows you by what you post and how you look in your photo and you cannot really control what they think unless you are paying attention to the details. So if you are bent on people not getting the wrong idea about you. Take a look at your wardrobe, you networking & job profiles and figure out if you are satisfied.
Now, though I don't think people should be quick to judge without knowing you, some people just don't have the kind of time but at the same time there are some things you can catch early!
This is especially seen in dating and sex. Ladies, how many guys tell you they can give you the world, bring you the moon, got a "mandingo", will blow ya back out and all this extra stuff, but their actions show otherwise or they fall "short"(ha)?? Just stop talking about it and be about it!! Now I ain't just jumping on the guys because women do it too! Saying she is this flexible or can do this and that in bed...Either way, you can say what you want, but a person is going to eventually learn the real you and see you from your actions and how you present yourself regardless of all that yikkity yak you kickin'!
Perception has so many dimensions. Think about fashion. I feel your style should be a direct reflection of who you are. Why? Because whether you realize it or not, the first thing a person will see when they see you is what's on the surface. They will see your clothes, your physique, your feature, hair, etc... If you present yourself in a certain light, people will perceive you a certain way. Unfortunately, if you never get a chance to see that person all they have is that first impression of you. So if you want to walk around in booty shorts and see through clothes with no bra on, extra makeup extra weave, etc etc, you can't control the reactions you're going to get and you can only be so mad about it because that's how you present yourself. You don't want to be called a slob, don't walk around always looking sloppy. You don't want to be thought of as a "skank" then think about what you are doing to put off this type of image. You show up at a job interview with ill fitting or unprofessional clothing, those people may assume you are sloppy, don't pay attention to detail and may not even be organized. Many don't realize how much information (positive or negative or misunderstood) that they could be giving off simply by what they wear, how they talk, walk, etc.
Social networks are tricky because many use social networks as a stage to create this person that they really are not! I like to call these people DECEPTICONS. On social networks a person only knows you by what you post and how you look in your photo and you cannot really control what they think unless you are paying attention to the details. So if you are bent on people not getting the wrong idea about you. Take a look at your wardrobe, you networking & job profiles and figure out if you are satisfied.
Now, though I don't think people should be quick to judge without knowing you, some people just don't have the kind of time but at the same time there are some things you can catch early!
Just something to think about...
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