Not Right Now, I'm Grindin...

So something I've noticed since being back in the dating world is some guys claiming they don't want relationships because they are "all about my(their) grind". More so the ones trying to break into the entertainment industry...and ESPECIALLY in the DC/MD/VA area which is heavy with music. I had a guy tell me "when I'm grindin' everybody gets cut off" ...yet when he was flying under the radar he was all about "us" telling me he wants to progress with me ...Sooo when the going gets rough you just start dropping people you supposedly care for rather than put forth some effort? I mean the least you can do is let her know off jump you don't want a relationship so she has the chance to keep it movin or accept things for what it is rather than you just playing things along but never really let it be known.

Trust me, I'm not one to try to stand in the way of one's grind or ask to have priority over it, but I am trying to get where I want to go too you ain't the only one! So the way my mind works is let's grind "together", let's push each other, motivate each other, cheer for and support one another, ya know? What strikes me even further, is many of these same guys have trust issues with women and assume women only want them for their money once they start "making it big". Then it's their fault because they weren't around for the STRUGGLE. So why push em away when your merely a whisper, but then when you make it and they swarm now you feel they all just want the money? Which is it gonna be?

I understand men feel like they need to be the "provider" for their lady and spoil her and that when it comes to relationships, some of y'all feel us ladies don't want to date a guy unless he has a certain amount of funds. However, if we supposedly want these things then why are you surprised about them sharks? Someone clear it up for me because I am just so confused. Why not just be an opportunist and seize the moment like you do with other things? Guys always say they want that "down a** chick" that "ride or die" but don't give a lady a chance to "ride" with you and be there when you're at your lowest to help pick you up and help keep you focused. If you don't desire a chick trying to "come up" off you then how about you let one come up WITH you?

Disclaimer: Now I'm not trying to bash dudes because that's not what this blog is about, but I just had to get this off my chest because I'm hoping some fellas out there can give me some feedback and possibly put this into perspective in a way I'll better understand. because I honestly have trouble wrapping my head around the idea that you're not going to at least put forth the EFFORT to make things work. Timing doesn't just fall into place all of the time you two have to work as a TEAM. Furthermore, I'm not saying this problem is limited to the guys, but I'm just speaking to you all right now.






Just a thought.